Second Chances...

When taking your first step toward a second chance of making relationships work, you would need to be honest with yourself. Calm yourself down and be in a calm environment when you attempt to analyse your situation. Do not let your emotions get in the way and try to keep away from any blame you have been receiving. Do not start defending yourself as you think about how your partner has been blaming you. When your partner says something or takes any action, there is a reason to it and unless your partner was someone who sets fires because he was a pyromaniac. Keep your emotions aside and think about what your partner has said.

Then, look at the situation again and think if it may actually be true.

If you feel that you have found out the source of your problems, you might want to contact your partner to try to resolve the problem together. The sooner you have your problems resolved, the easier it would be to heal the wounds in your hearts, and allow you two to consider getting back together or something else. Do try to help your partner - not force - see your situation in the same logical and reasonable way you did so that your partner could give you an alternate view with alternate solutions.

One of the most important things to remember about having a relationship is to be mature. Enjoyment, comfort, security, etc, would be part of what you want in your relationship, but if you can only demand things to be done your way and will not listen to advice and pleas from your partner, it would be no different from being a royal member of the family.

Remember to maintain communication with your partner. Merely saying the usual everyday talk would not help much in repairing your relationship. Consider entering a conversation about the things your partner is interested in or is dying to vent frustrations on. Also allow you and your partner to express your feelings and opinions on matters around the both of you. By learning more about your partner and being open to things that come your way, it would help you to understand your partner more, and your partner could know more about you as well. Take it as a chance to win the heart of your potential lover and the way you try to learn more about that person.