SHE's just NOT that into you...

As any guy who's ever tried to size up a girl can attest, picking up on whether she likes you or not isn't always easy. Women have a language all their own that hints at their feelings towards you, from disinterest to outright flirtation, and while some elements of the language are simple enough to pick up on others are downright vague. And unfortunately, some guys don't get the hint. They either misinterpret what's covertly being said to them or just ignore it altogether, opting to plow straight ahead with wooing and then suffering embarrassment. And while some guys can put up with that, not everybody has a big enough ego to keep on truckin' after getting shot down.

Here are some signs that she's just not into you. Keep them close to your heart at all times when you're talking to a lady you fancy.

1). She's easily distracted away from you. This is a big one. If a girl likes a guy she'll either spend all her time fixated on him or, at the very least, make a concerted effort to talk to him as much as possible. If you constantly have to bring yourself to her attention, she's probably not that interested in you. Worse, she might actually consider you a nuisance if you're always popping up without warning, so if you want her to EVER like you I'd suggest not getting in her face too much.

2). When she is talking to you, she has no problems looking elsewhere. More, she may appear bored and suddenly remove herself from the conversation. Boredom at your presence is a bad sign

3). She displays uncomfotable body language, aka, orienting her body away from yours! I didn't really think this was true until I witnessed it firsthand, but a girl interested in a particular guy will point their body towards him whenever possible, even if it just means pointing their feet at him. Watch which direction their toes are facing. Are they towards you? Does their whole body seem to stretch in your direction, or is it headed somewhere else? In the latter case, she's not interested.

4). She refuses to make concrete plans with you. Any time you ask her if she wants to do something you'll get the 'ahh, I'm too busy' run-around. An interested girl always makes time.

5). She'll enjoy being around you, but she'll act more like you're a good friend. A sibling, even, which is a deadly zone for a man interested in something more than friendship. If a girl ever says 'you're like a brother', your chances of a relationship are sunk, and possibly for good.

6). And, most telling of all, she'll flirt with other guys. Sometimes this is just to make the first guy jealous, but if she never goes BACK to him then he never stood a chance in the first place

Rejection is part of life, guys. Not every girl is gonna be into you. The sooner you absorb that, the better off you'll be in the long run - and the faster you'll run into that girl who genuinely DOES dig what you bring to the table.

10 Things Never to Say to a Woman

1). She’s just a friend.

Yeah right. If she’s attractive and single, she'll see her as a threat. If
she really is just a friend, let her know the reason why. Is it because she’s not your type,she has a boyfriend, she has an annoying personality? Women like to be reassured that you’re not secretly into your “friend."

2). I’ll call you tonight at 8pm.

Do NOT give a specific time or date of when you will be calling unless you intend to keep your word. If you say you will call tonight, she is expecting a call tonight. Not calling will set off all sorts of alarms that will lead to distrust. If you don’t know when you will call, you can say something like, “I’ll talk to you later.”

3). She’s hot!

She'll want to think that, at least in your eyes, she is the hottest woman on the planet. Pointing out that someone else is attractive will not earn you any brownie points. She doesn't want to know if you think anyone else is hot, so zip it!

4). I don’t use condoms.

That’s nice. She doesn't want an STD. Condoms are a fact of life in today’s society, so unless you’ve been tested and plan to be monogamous, get used to them.

5). I love you

If you don’t mean it, you’ll be opening Pandora’s Box. Women do not take
this statement lightly. She is waiting for you to say it and when you do, she assumes the relationship is moving to the next level. If you’re not ready for that, then don’t utter these three little words until you are.

6). Did you gain weight?

Does this one really need an explanation? You shouldn’t even say this jokingly, even if your girlfriend is stick thin. Just as you don’t want to hear anything about your “size”, women don’t want to hear about their weight.

7). My ex always/never/used to…

If your ex is still on your mind so much that you need to constantly bring her up, then why are you dating us? Relationships are difficult enough without the ghost of your ex floating around. Either get back with her or shut up.

8). You remind me of my mother.

Do not compare your mother to your girlfriend unless you’ve made it clear that you absolutely adore your mother and think the world of her.

9). Did we have plans?

Oh no you didn’t! If you've made plans to get together, she's been looking forward to it all day. She's been thinking about how to dress and how to do her hair. Don’t rain on her parade by being dumb enough to forget or there will be hell to pay.

10). Keep in touch/Call me.
What the heck is that supposed to mean? That you don’t plan on ever calling her again? That you want her to call you next time? That you’re unsure how she feels about you and you want to see if she'll call? The fact that you are being vague and distant is going to raise a red flag. Upfront honesty might not be the most desirable approach due to a high degree of awkwardness, but sometimes honesty is the best policy.

The Five Worst Places for a Date

Let's look at the function of a date. If you're single, a date acts like an interview. Your goal is to get the other person to still like you enough when the date is over to go out with you again, assuming you're still interested as well. You're trying to appear cool, sexy, together, confident, and fun. You're also trying to make the other person as comfortable as possible.
That's why avoiding the worst places is the first step in smart dating.

The following lists the worst places you could choose to go on a date and I recommend that you avoid them like the plague if you want the other person to still like you when it's over.

1). An Amusement Park

As the roller coaster nears its pinnacle your date looks over the side and silently swears under her breath at you for talking her into going on this ride. She hates roller coasters, has always been afraid of them, and is highly susceptible to motion sickness. As she contemplates her strategy to avoid you in the future, the coaster starts its stomach-turning decent, and she leans over and throws up in your lap, her way of saying "Thanks for the great date".

2). The Beach

Don't get me wrong, the beach is a great place. But from the point of view of a date with a near stranger, it stinks. First, there's an awful lot of sand and it can get everywhere. You can't easily eat on the beach; a lack of furniture contributes to that. With sand and bugs-o-plenty, eating ends up being a drag.

Possibly the worst thing about the beach is that you're compelled to take off most of your clothes. Now, if you both have hot bodies, well-groomed with flat stomachs and great muscle tone, then you have nothing to worry about. But if you don't, stay away from places that make you feel silly if you want to keep all your imperfection-hiding clothes on.

3). A Non-Traditional Restaurant

A first date doesn't want to watch you maul your barbeque ribs and chicken legs like The Missing Link. No one likes the thought of being touched later on by greasy fingers. And have you ever eaten corn on the cob and come away with clean teeth?

4). A Family Function

There's no such thing as a family that isn't dysfunctional. It doesn't exist. If you bring a first or second date to a family function be prepared for somebody to embarrass you. Grandma will ask you two when you're getting married and when to expect great grandchildren. And your little cousin will promptly tell your date all about the time you farted in church.

So....it goes without saying that I never bring dates to family functions. And you shouldn't either. Weddings, reunions, baptisms, bat mitzvahs, and especially funerals, are out.

5). Your Parent's House for Dinner

I can't think of a more uncomfortable setting than sitting at a dinner table with complete strangers in their own house. Don't put a date through this torture. You may have the hippest parents in the world. They may intelligent, hospitable and interesting. But don't subject anyone you just recently met to your parents for an entire dinner.


Dates can be traumatic and nerve-racking in the best of places so don't make it harder on either of you than you have to. There are some great places to take a date that will make you look like a hero, won't cost you too much, will give you just enough time to talk to each other, but will also provide an entertaining distraction.

How You Know He Cares

(Ladies of the World)



I think it's safe to say that we've all enjoyed a romantic comedy or two in our lifetime. However despite enjoying these fun loving, happy ending type of movies, we often fail to realize that it's just that, a movie. Probably the most popular self-help book turned romantic comedy of the past 3 or 4 years was aptly titled "He's Just Not That Into You." This book touches on the subject of picking up signs that your significant other might not be that into you and or clearly isn't someone with whom you should invest your time.

Men do or don't do many different things to let a woman know that he is interested in her. The key to knowing whether or not he really is that into you is to pay attention. By paying attention to both the "sweet" things he does and the "not-so-sweet" you'll be able to tell the degree in which he likes you. Don't allow yourself to dwell on the only the good or the bad things he does because that will cause you either to hold on to something that isn't, or dismiss something that could be.

When a man really likes a girl, its all about the effort. If he consistently makes an effort either to talk with or hang out with you; He Likes You!! If a man is the first one to call, text, or email you; He Likes You!! If a man listens more than he talks when in a serious conversation; He Likes You!! If he still gets nervous around you; He Likes You!!

Now, if a man isn't that into you, here are the Top 5 things he'll do:

1). He'll be very inconsistent with dates and or hangouts

2). He'll wait for you to call/text him first

3). He'll try to control every conversation

4). He'll reschedule early and often

5). He'll be vague and distant and often play the victim

What If...

"What if he falls out of love with me?"

"What if she finds someone better?"

"What if we aren't meant to be?"

"What if I'm not ready for a relationship?"

One of the biggest enemies of a monogamous relationship is the inquisitive statement: What if? So many people fill themselves with self-doubt through this statement and it becomes their excuse for not allowing themselves to be in a happy, successful relationship. Or even worse, gives them a reason to stay in an emotionally or physically abusive one. Whatever the case, one might infer that removing "what if?" from his vocabulary entirely might benefit him in more ways than just relationships.

Using the phrase "What if?" can limit your ability to think logically about a romantic relationship or potential love interest. Part of the excitement of a relationship or meeting someone new is the unknown, so when thinking about all the things that could happen, you are already sabotaging what could be a very fulfilling partnership with a membership of the opposite sex. Bad things can and will happen, but so will good things if you allow them to.

The term "what if" is very similar to the idea that it's better to be safe than sorry. I hate this idea because it eliminates many opportunities for people as they become fearful or complacent in both life and relationships. I, myself prefer to live by the idea that it's better to beg forgiveness than ask permission. And while the two philosophies are different subjectively, the principles upon which they are based are similar objectively.

The fear of taking risks is what holds most single, lonely people single and lonely. Allowing yourself to care or even love another person will always be a risk and is a bridge you'll have to cross if you're ever going to find happiness in a relationship. Bottom line: It's ok to take a leap of faith. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you learn a valuable life lesson in whom to take chances on and whom to avoid. So, live a little and the next time you start to think or say what if...DON'T!!!!