Sharing How You Feel TOO Early
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.Listen...Attractive, single, successful men are rare. They get a LOT of attention from women. Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women.That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.They know what to expect.And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything... It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates. This signals to the man that you're just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives. This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.Don't do it.
Lean back.
Relax.
There's a much better way...
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Mistake #3
Temporarily Molding Yourself into Something You're NOT
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them. Another HORRIBLE idea. Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth. Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from the start, think again. You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them. Another HORRIBLE idea. Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth. Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from the start, think again. You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
Mistake #2
Assuming YOU get a MAN's Psychology
Contrary to your popular belief ladies, chances are you don't really get men as well as you think you do. Yes, we are visual creatures. Yes, we are very sexual beings. Yes, we are ultra competitive and occasionally barbaric. No, that's not all we are about. And most importantly, No, we are not all the same....
Men are different from women. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him. Lots of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual. As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”. Women don't seem to remember this about men.So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks. Especially when it comes to longer term relationships. Looks just happen to be the most obvious way we do so.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY woman can learn how...
Contrary to your popular belief ladies, chances are you don't really get men as well as you think you do. Yes, we are visual creatures. Yes, we are very sexual beings. Yes, we are ultra competitive and occasionally barbaric. No, that's not all we are about. And most importantly, No, we are not all the same....
Men are different from women. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him. Lots of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual. As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women. And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”. Women don't seem to remember this about men.So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks. Especially when it comes to longer term relationships. Looks just happen to be the most obvious way we do so.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY woman can learn how...
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Mistake # 1
Banking on His Potential:
This might be the biggest and most frequent mistake some women make in the realm of dating. Odds are, most of us either know or have met a woman who is in a "dysfunctional" relationship with a man, but maintains that things would get better or change. What she meant by this is that she hoped that her "man" would grow up or live up to his "potential." Most women aren't even aware they make this mistake and they make excuses for both their behavior and their significant others. The sad thing is, that this type of mistake can be eliminated before it happens at the very onset of a romantic encounter.
It all starts with the playful flirting, hanging out, the eventual hook-up and finally ends with the, "what are we?" talk. It's then where he knows he can pretty much do whatever he wants, because he "showed" you signs of a deeper, more emotional version of himself in the courting period. I can't stress to you enough the importance of learning that TALKERS ARE RARELY DOERS. I get it, you think he's hot and even though he doesn't give you what you need or treat you the way you deserve, the "spark" is still there.
I want you to do me a favor and wake up from whatever romantic comedy you think you are starring in at the moment. As said in the book "He's Just Not That Into You," Men created the "spark" so that you would confuse being played with emotionally for actual chemistry. He' not going to change, grow up or evolve into the type of man you really want to be with. That "gut feeling" in your stomach telling you that you "love" him is just your actual fear of being alone whether it be temporarily or permanently.
The problem, and it is a problem, is that most women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" a man is to them on a day-to-day basis. You choose the men you do based on your "gut level attraction" for a man rather than using both your head and your heart. Or are you one of the women who feel that your head and your heart never really match up?! If you are one of these hopeless romantics looking forward to that Pride and Prejudice type of movie ending, you are in for a long and unhappy road to loneliness.
So allow me to summarize this in the easiest and nicest way possible. If your man hasn't changed or "evolved" into the man you originally thought he was or truly want, he doesn't care enough about you to do so. The truth is that men can actually change, and some even change for a woman, but it's only when they make the decision to. So if he hasn't, he's not going to, and is probably banking on you hanging around hoping you will so that he can keep his "security blanket."
This might be the biggest and most frequent mistake some women make in the realm of dating. Odds are, most of us either know or have met a woman who is in a "dysfunctional" relationship with a man, but maintains that things would get better or change. What she meant by this is that she hoped that her "man" would grow up or live up to his "potential." Most women aren't even aware they make this mistake and they make excuses for both their behavior and their significant others. The sad thing is, that this type of mistake can be eliminated before it happens at the very onset of a romantic encounter.
It all starts with the playful flirting, hanging out, the eventual hook-up and finally ends with the, "what are we?" talk. It's then where he knows he can pretty much do whatever he wants, because he "showed" you signs of a deeper, more emotional version of himself in the courting period. I can't stress to you enough the importance of learning that TALKERS ARE RARELY DOERS. I get it, you think he's hot and even though he doesn't give you what you need or treat you the way you deserve, the "spark" is still there.
I want you to do me a favor and wake up from whatever romantic comedy you think you are starring in at the moment. As said in the book "He's Just Not That Into You," Men created the "spark" so that you would confuse being played with emotionally for actual chemistry. He' not going to change, grow up or evolve into the type of man you really want to be with. That "gut feeling" in your stomach telling you that you "love" him is just your actual fear of being alone whether it be temporarily or permanently.
The problem, and it is a problem, is that most women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" a man is to them on a day-to-day basis. You choose the men you do based on your "gut level attraction" for a man rather than using both your head and your heart. Or are you one of the women who feel that your head and your heart never really match up?! If you are one of these hopeless romantics looking forward to that Pride and Prejudice type of movie ending, you are in for a long and unhappy road to loneliness.
So allow me to summarize this in the easiest and nicest way possible. If your man hasn't changed or "evolved" into the man you originally thought he was or truly want, he doesn't care enough about you to do so. The truth is that men can actually change, and some even change for a woman, but it's only when they make the decision to. So if he hasn't, he's not going to, and is probably banking on you hanging around hoping you will so that he can keep his "security blanket."
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Top 10 Mistakes Women Make In Relationships
(LADIES!!!!!)
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...I'm sure if you are reading this that you have heard an assortment of reasons you are unhappy in a relationship. Shoot, you might have read every self-help book known to man in hopes that you could fix your current relationship no matter how awful or stagnant. Chances are, things haven't changed and you are unhappy as ever, so why are you taking part in this colossal waste of time?!! Let me guess, you think you can change him... No, wait, he has great potential?!? You're gut tells you he's the one?!?! SAVE IT!!!
Perhaps I should put my frustration with the female approach to a relationship into an analogy. Lets say I come up to you and complain about a financial struggle. I endlessly complain about never having any money and never seem to understand why. However, you recall countless times when we've been out that I purchased drinks for everyone, or fit the bill at dinner, or splurged on a $2,000 television. You bring this up to me, and I acknowledge it, but it never really sinks in what my real problem is. A few weeks later we have a similar conversation.....and so on ....and so on.........and so on.....catch my drift?!?!
And please spare me the "you can't help who you love" bit...I beg you not to be included in the thousands of women who confuse attraction or chemistry for a real connection. I understand that as humans we are naturally attracted to certain things, but using that as an excuse for what has become destructive behaviour is not only inexcusable, but increasingly annoying. The truth is that you CAN help you fall in LOVE with. What you MUST do in order to control this is make better decisions and or judgement calls when it comes to selecting what type of man you let into your life. I'll give you a big head start.....Men who are TALKERS are rarely DOERS...so do yourself a favor and WRITE that down. That should solve half the battle before I've even listed your top 10 mistakes...so.....YOU'RE WELCOME!!
Top 10 Female Blunders
1). Banking on His Potential
2). Assuming you've figured out the Male Gender
3). Temporarily Molding into Something Your Not
4). Sharing How You Feel Too Early
5). Misreading Male Signals
6). Relying on Female Intuition In regards to Men
7). Expecting HIM to Make You Happy
8). Trying to Convince Him to Like or Love You
9). Lack of Self-Awareness
10). Taking a Girlfriends Advice
**(a detailed description of each "no-no" coming soon)**
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...I'm sure if you are reading this that you have heard an assortment of reasons you are unhappy in a relationship. Shoot, you might have read every self-help book known to man in hopes that you could fix your current relationship no matter how awful or stagnant. Chances are, things haven't changed and you are unhappy as ever, so why are you taking part in this colossal waste of time?!! Let me guess, you think you can change him... No, wait, he has great potential?!? You're gut tells you he's the one?!?! SAVE IT!!!
Perhaps I should put my frustration with the female approach to a relationship into an analogy. Lets say I come up to you and complain about a financial struggle. I endlessly complain about never having any money and never seem to understand why. However, you recall countless times when we've been out that I purchased drinks for everyone, or fit the bill at dinner, or splurged on a $2,000 television. You bring this up to me, and I acknowledge it, but it never really sinks in what my real problem is. A few weeks later we have a similar conversation.....and so on ....and so on.........and so on.....catch my drift?!?!
And please spare me the "you can't help who you love" bit...I beg you not to be included in the thousands of women who confuse attraction or chemistry for a real connection. I understand that as humans we are naturally attracted to certain things, but using that as an excuse for what has become destructive behaviour is not only inexcusable, but increasingly annoying. The truth is that you CAN help you fall in LOVE with. What you MUST do in order to control this is make better decisions and or judgement calls when it comes to selecting what type of man you let into your life. I'll give you a big head start.....Men who are TALKERS are rarely DOERS...so do yourself a favor and WRITE that down. That should solve half the battle before I've even listed your top 10 mistakes...so.....YOU'RE WELCOME!!
Top 10 Female Blunders
1). Banking on His Potential
2). Assuming you've figured out the Male Gender
3). Temporarily Molding into Something Your Not
4). Sharing How You Feel Too Early
5). Misreading Male Signals
6). Relying on Female Intuition In regards to Men
7). Expecting HIM to Make You Happy
8). Trying to Convince Him to Like or Love You
9). Lack of Self-Awareness
10). Taking a Girlfriends Advice
**(a detailed description of each "no-no" coming soon)**
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