It is a true dilemma of modern times - to guys today, does sex mean a relationship? Do men today feel an obligation to couple up with a woman after sleeping with her? Does the modern man feel the unspoken grasp of attachment to his partner after a hook-up? These questions race through every woman's mind before, sometimes during, and always after sex. Read on for some inside clues on deciphering the man code of sex and their thoughts about if sex means relationship.
Modern relationships are vastly different from those in older times. A man need only accidentally see a woman in a mode of undress and he would be obligated to marry her. Attributes such as purity, virginity, and celibacy were requirements for an unmarried woman. It would be quite difficult to find an adult female today who possesses these traits. However, an advantage to this freedom ensures that a man and woman today need not enter into marriage just for the sex. It seems to hold true also, that a relationship which suffers through unsatisfying sex doesn't last. Nowadays, that means just a breakup - not a divorce.
So, how can you tell if a guy thinks sex means relationship? Here's a few hints to help you read between the lines. Relationship Guy wants to know things about YOU. He listens when you talk. And, if sex does occur, he relishes knowing that HE has pleased YOU and hopes for the invitation to hang around long after the sex is over. Sex Guy focuses solely on his own satisfaction and his course of action - particularly after sex. His interaction with you is geared to achieve a goal - manipulating to sleep with you. Listen to your instincts with Sex Guy.
Actually, when you meet any new guy, you should listen to your instincts. It's a good idea to wait for sex until you have an insight into his intentions. Once you've crossed that line, reality becomes very difficult if you find that he is truly "Sex Guy" and you are looking for "Relationship Guy". Give yourself time. The sheer fact that you have to decipher men's actions confirms the fact that to the modern man, sex does not mean relationship.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Why Women Cheat
It's one major ego breaker. We guys are more likely to cheat on our girlfriends but what if it happens the other away around? That is totally heartbreaking. Not to say though that it's less heartbreaking for the girls when their boyfriends cheat on them. Cheating is not right, period. That's even reason enough to break-up. Below are some reasons why girls take the road to infidelity. And for you to do something before that happens!
Boredom - Yes, girls are capable of that. Even if they talk a lot and create a lot of drama all at the same time, they can be bored in a relationship. So find something exciting and memorable thing to do together everyday. Even if it's just a call or to send her message reminding her how much you love her, that's more than enough.
Unfinished business - Does your girl have an ex she's been trying to get over with for the longest time? If this wasn't settled, then it could be one reason why she would suddenly cheat on you. Maybe she finds something lacking in your relationship that she's still longing for from the other guy. You're only option here, sadly, is to break-up with her. You don't want to be someone who is thinking of someone else.
No drama - Are you becoming too predictable? Are you both always happy? Do you do the same things and talk about the same things? Sounds like you both should find something to fight about. Really! Not kidding. Drama adds spice to a relationship and fights will make your bond stronger.
Playing the NICE GUY - Saying yes to your every girl's whim will definitely urge them to cheat. Make them realize your value and make it two-way. It's a give and take relationship. It's not your job to just give and give. Demand from time to time and make her work her way up to your rewards. At the same time, realize her worth. Being nice is nice but too much is definitely not a good idea.
Boredom - Yes, girls are capable of that. Even if they talk a lot and create a lot of drama all at the same time, they can be bored in a relationship. So find something exciting and memorable thing to do together everyday. Even if it's just a call or to send her message reminding her how much you love her, that's more than enough.
Unfinished business - Does your girl have an ex she's been trying to get over with for the longest time? If this wasn't settled, then it could be one reason why she would suddenly cheat on you. Maybe she finds something lacking in your relationship that she's still longing for from the other guy. You're only option here, sadly, is to break-up with her. You don't want to be someone who is thinking of someone else.
No drama - Are you becoming too predictable? Are you both always happy? Do you do the same things and talk about the same things? Sounds like you both should find something to fight about. Really! Not kidding. Drama adds spice to a relationship and fights will make your bond stronger.
Playing the NICE GUY - Saying yes to your every girl's whim will definitely urge them to cheat. Make them realize your value and make it two-way. It's a give and take relationship. It's not your job to just give and give. Demand from time to time and make her work her way up to your rewards. At the same time, realize her worth. Being nice is nice but too much is definitely not a good idea.
Why Men Cheat
So why do men cheat? What makes them take the other route when it comes to relationships? Do all men cheat for the same reason? Well there are several types of men on this planet and no not all cheat for the same reason. Each one has his own story to tell. Read on to discover the major reasons why men cheat.
Past habit- Some men are addicted and cheat only due to the fact they simply can't control themselves. They might get into a relationship or even married but after the initial phase they get back to the route of cheating and cheat only because of lack of control on their bodies.
Lack of attraction- Sometimes things tend to go dry after the initial phases of the marriage or the relationship and they start looking for better options. Some men tend to loose attraction towards their wife or girlfriend but at the same time do not want to get out of the relationship therefore they tend to cheat.
Sex- This is the most common major reason why most men cheat. According to some men sex tends to get boring after a while and they want something fresh. There in this quest for something exciting and something new they tend to cheat on their wives or girl friends.
Constant nagging- Sometimes due to constant nagging and quarrels at home men tend to cheat. This might be simply due to one's ego satisfaction or just take revenge on one's wife or girl friend. This basically deals with the emotional connection a man is not able to make with his wife or girlfriend and that's why he goes out looking for the same connection with someone else.
Past habit- Some men are addicted and cheat only due to the fact they simply can't control themselves. They might get into a relationship or even married but after the initial phase they get back to the route of cheating and cheat only because of lack of control on their bodies.
Lack of attraction- Sometimes things tend to go dry after the initial phases of the marriage or the relationship and they start looking for better options. Some men tend to loose attraction towards their wife or girlfriend but at the same time do not want to get out of the relationship therefore they tend to cheat.
Sex- This is the most common major reason why most men cheat. According to some men sex tends to get boring after a while and they want something fresh. There in this quest for something exciting and something new they tend to cheat on their wives or girl friends.
Constant nagging- Sometimes due to constant nagging and quarrels at home men tend to cheat. This might be simply due to one's ego satisfaction or just take revenge on one's wife or girl friend. This basically deals with the emotional connection a man is not able to make with his wife or girlfriend and that's why he goes out looking for the same connection with someone else.
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