Mistake # 1

Banking on His Potential:



This might be the biggest and most frequent mistake some women make in the realm of dating. Odds are, most of us either know or have met a woman who is in a "dysfunctional" relationship with a man, but maintains that things would get better or change. What she meant by this is that she hoped that her "man" would grow up or live up to his "potential." Most women aren't even aware they make this mistake and they make excuses for both their behavior and their significant others. The sad thing is, that this type of mistake can be eliminated before it happens at the very onset of a romantic encounter.



It all starts with the playful flirting, hanging out, the eventual hook-up and finally ends with the, "what are we?" talk. It's then where he knows he can pretty much do whatever he wants, because he "showed" you signs of a deeper, more emotional version of himself in the courting period. I can't stress to you enough the importance of learning that TALKERS ARE RARELY DOERS. I get it, you think he's hot and even though he doesn't give you what you need or treat you the way you deserve, the "spark" is still there.



I want you to do me a favor and wake up from whatever romantic comedy you think you are starring in at the moment. As said in the book "He's Just Not That Into You," Men created the "spark" so that you would confuse being played with emotionally for actual chemistry. He' not going to change, grow up or evolve into the type of man you really want to be with. That "gut feeling" in your stomach telling you that you "love" him is just your actual fear of being alone whether it be temporarily or permanently.



The problem, and it is a problem, is that most women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" a man is to them on a day-to-day basis. You choose the men you do based on your "gut level attraction" for a man rather than using both your head and your heart. Or are you one of the women who feel that your head and your heart never really match up?! If you are one of these hopeless romantics looking forward to that Pride and Prejudice type of movie ending, you are in for a long and unhappy road to loneliness.



So allow me to summarize this in the easiest and nicest way possible. If your man hasn't changed or "evolved" into the man you originally thought he was or truly want, he doesn't care enough about you to do so. The truth is that men can actually change, and some even change for a woman, but it's only when they make the decision to. So if he hasn't, he's not going to, and is probably banking on you hanging around hoping you will so that he can keep his "security blanket."