Just Friends....?

If there is one universal truth in this world, it might possibly be that men and women can't be "just friends." Yea I know you probably think that your gal pal who is like one of the guys or your "bestie" who just seems to "get" you is only a friend, but remember, he or she might not be seeing the relationship in the same light. I'm not saying that such a friendship can't, won't or doesn't happen. However, it's difficult for single men and women to have a strictly platonic relationship.

I've discussed the Friend Zone in previous posts, and the concept of being Just Friends is very similar. A single man and a single woman are both looking for someone to spend their time with. Regardless of what they might tell you, nobody wakes up and says, "I hope I don't find love today." Single people might be just enjoying life and "focusing on their careers," but at the end of the day loneliness has a tendency to set in.

So, when you meet a guy or girl who you find attractive, but not in the romantic sense, chances are that they are hoping that something evolves from such a friendship. I'd be willing to bet that you have met someone with whom you had a connection, but he/she didn't seem to be as interested in the romantic side of the relationship as you were. But you hoped that the corny ass phrase, "all good relationships develop from friendships" was an actual truth rather than another lonely person just feeding themselves with feel good philosophies.

I suppose I should just get to the point and be as blunt as possible. If you have a friend of the opposite sex, whom you consider your "bestie," chances are he or she is hoping and praying that one day you'll see how wonderful they are and want to spend the rest of your life with them. Humorous and sad as it may be, this is a regular occurrence in the dating realm which can and should be avoided. I'm sure it might be a little awkward now that you've opened your eyes to his/her undying love for you, but let's face it, if you couldn't see it before odds are that you just enjoyed the attention and the fact that someone of the opposite sex would be there for you no matter what. (see also security blanket)