Desperation Dating

Are you falling for your date? Fine, but please don't be a desperate dater!!! Yes, you simply adore your date and would love to take the relationship to the next level, but do not ever be a desperate dater. If you are acting desperate, then you will surely end up harming your relationship in the long term. If on the other hand your partner appears desperate, then take note of this and ask yourself why he or she is being so desperate. Is this because the person is in love with you all too soon, or is it because the person has a history of several broken relationships, or perhaps it is just a case of low self confidence and esteem.


Here are 5 Not To's in the Desperate Dating World:

1) Never go out on last minute notices - Perhaps your date has called up just now and asked you to go out in 10 minutes. Say ‘No’. However instead of flatly refusing, say that you are too busy right now, and propose an alternative date. This is important because if you agree, even if you are free, this might set the wrong expectation and you may be taken for granted. Never let this happen. Set things straight on what can and what cannot happen early on in your relationship.

2) Never forget your friends - Those who are really desperate often drop friends because they fear that friends might come in the way, or worst case, one of them might steal their date. This is not acceptable. Friendship is a noble thing and you must never forget your true friends for anyone. A date and a friend are two different people, and one must not come in the other’s way.

3) Those who are desperate need to be reassured always - You will find many people who are so low in confidence that they need to be comforted and reassured always, and this can come into dating too. Though the two of you are advancing steadily in the relationship stage by stage, your date might try to hurry things up. Or if the two of you are firmly committed, your date might keep asking you once in a while how much you love him/her, and similar other questions. You are sure to feel weary after a while.

4) Does the person seem to cling on? - People who are really desperate are tending to feel insecure. As a result they end up asking prying questions such as who attended that party last night, who sits next to you in office and others like this. Is the person trying to hold on too tightly? This approach never works over the long term.

5) Is the person trying to justify bad treatment? - Perhaps the two of you had a fight which is quite natural in any relationship. Perhaps you lost your head and said some bad things. Your date surely has the right to be aggrieved if you did. Perhaps you might even be feeling bad about it once you have cooled down. But does it seem that your date is going overboard trying to justify your actions? If yes, the person is sure enough desperate. Overall desperate dater will always take lot of gruff and accept poor treatment.