Ego's and Relationships

Our Ego is the buffer that prevents us from getting connected to the universe. The ego, the "I am", in other words, puts us in a virtual prison. A prison that makes us believe that the self image we have created is real. We feel we must protect it, we constantly worry about what others should say about us, and whether we stand up to the standards that our ego has set for us.

Are we good or bad? Do we deserve to be loved? Does this person deserve to receive our help or love? We keep ranking people-putting them on pedestals, or putting them in pits, but most important, we forget to put them in our hearts.The Ego disease is a common disease.It can ruin relationships, friendships, and get in the way of our own happiness . What I’ve came to understand, is that my ego has set me to a state of suffering, for false reasons. Made me feel hurt and disrespected, made me get insulted and offended easily, made me feel anger and sometimes even hold resentment for those I blamed for hurting me.

When one releases himself from the chains of the ego and lets only love, sympathy, and compassion come between one and one’s surroundings; one will find it easier to forgive and forget; easier to sympathize and understand the fact that the person who hurts you, does it, because he’s hurt inside, in some way or still has a memory of an event that made him lose his trust and thus he protects himself from hurting again by hurting others. Maybe that person has a basic need, of love, compassion, or understanding that hasn’t been fulfilled yet and thus, it causes frustration within him and pushes him to act in certain ways because of his hurt ego and self image.

You will find this person unaware, but you can see that the difference is that one is aware and thus can sympathize with that person, and even prevent his/her unaware actions and destructive ego driven behavior come between both of them and cause conflicts,when he/she is an "ego free" person. To tell the truth, no one is really 100 percent "ego free", but being in a higher state of awareness than most people, can help someone stop the Ego attacks in time.