Marriage....Mistake?

Everyone talks about people getting married for the right reasons, but perhaps there is an equal need to understand the wrong reasons so that we can avoid these. We are all aware how high the divorce rates are and how expensive this can be emotionally and financially. Therefore, any information that can help us make sure we are not making a decision for the wrong reasons could prove to be beneficial. The following are some of the reasons that should be not used for a trip down the aisle.

Loneliness is often a reason chosen for getting married. People in this situation will often grasp at the first person who shows an interest in them and try to whisk this saviour down the aisle, just so that they do not have to face the future on their own. However, what is not realized is that, in an environment where two people are living together and have nothing in common, nor an emotional bond, the loneliness can be even worse

This next bad reason is a classic. How often have we heard people say "he / she will change when we are married." Wrong! People will only change if they are willing to do so. The fact that they are married will not necessarily bring about a change. In many cases they will see another person's willingness to marry them as condoning of their current behaviour and continue in the same vein after the marriage. You cannot improve a relationship or make it any safer or secure by tying it into marriage. Marriage is about both being committed, not one imprisoning the other.

Believe it or not there are even people who want to get married simply because they have always dreamed of a big wedding day and do not want to be denied this. One day does not make a lifetime of happiness and commitment, no matter how spectacular that day might be. Splendour does not make emotions or love grow if they are not there in the first place. A further example of this sort of wrong reason is getting married for money. Although money can do a number of things for you, it cannot buy happiness and, what's more essential to realize is that it cannot buy love.

Marrying for the wrong reasons will invariably end in disaster, unless you are fortunate and able to find the right reasons work for you two very quickly. Two important people's lives, you and your partner's will possibly have been ruined simply because you did not stop and ask yourselves whether you are making this commitment for the right reasons.