Beware of the Texter

Do you ever find yourself wondering why a "love" interest sends brief, impersonal texts, rather than just giving you a call? Have you ever told this person to call and they just sent the "Hey you" text instead? While texting is the main form of communication these days, it still allows us to communicate without being personable. Sure there are the texters of the world who don't have time to make the call, but for the most part people text because it's easy, convenient and they are too lazy to dial it up. So allow me a moment to put the pieces together for you so that you may better understand my point.

Obviously, when in a serious committed relationship, you are going to communicate regularly with a healthy mix of calling and texting. However, when in the "dating" stage of a relationship, continuous texting should raise a red flag to us all. Allow me to elaborate on my definition of the dating stage. Dating includes but is not limited to: hanging out, watching movies, making out, hooking up (sexually), meeting for drinks, the occasional dinner date, etc. Basically I'm referring to any type of relationship that still doesn't have the bf/gf label.

So now that we are all on the same page I'll get back on track. In the early stages of dating we often find ourselves wondering one of two things: Am I really into this person? or, Is this person really that into me? And more often than not the answer is different for each involved in the relationship. Sometimes one person is more interested than the other. This is completely natural, however the problem arises when one side uses this to his/her advantage.

The importance of avoiding a "texter," is that this person uses texting as a way to both stay in contact but keep his or her distance from the relationship. Texting has been and always will be an efficient but impersonal way of communicating with another person. Keep in mind, you are not a co-worker, business proposition or even an acquaintance, so why shouldn't your love interest pick up the phone and call? The answer is simple, chances are this person just isn't that interested. I can't state enough that there are exceptions to this rule, but if you think about it, you'll probably be able to think of a time when either you have done this to someone else or vice versa.

5 Warning Signs of a Texter:

1). Late night hook up texts

2). Texts starting with "Hey you"

3). Promise of a call...ending up in a text

4). Extended time w/out any communication (min 2 days)

5). Texts ending with "ttyl," "Get a hold of me later," or any statement ending with "...soon"