Girls Night Out...

I felt the need to address such an event due to the fact that Men view a Ladies Night out on the town much different than the women who take part in such an extravaganza. Fellas, I understand that when you see a group of women out at a bar or club, dressed to the proverbial "T," you automatically put them in the target category. Men often make the assumption that these women are dressing this way to attract a potential mate. This couldn't be further from the truth. Granted, women do dress nicely if they know a man they are interested in will be at a particular place, but for the most part it's not YOU that these ladies are dressing up for.

Men are thought to be the more competitive of the two genders. They have high testosterone levels and seem to be dependant on competition for survival. However, women are just as competitive as men, but show it in different ways. A prime example of their competitive drive is the fact that they dress nicely when they're out with the "girls." I know it's probably going to come as a shock to some men, but women dress up to impress OTHER WOMEN, not US!!

For women, it's perfectly fine to spend a night out with the ladies having fun while not looking to "hook up" or spend time with men in general. As men it's hard for us to understand this due to the fact this is the sole purpose behind a night out on the town. The fact that we are visual creatures makes it more difficult for us not to constantly be on the prowl for an attractive woman. However, we shouldn't be upset when we see an attractive group of ladies who seem to have little to NO interest or don't respond favorably to our advances.

Women go out with each other to have fun and dance, both of which don't require a man!!!

Defining The Relationship

Have you ever dated someone but the title of Boyfriend or Girlfriend remained elusive? Did you have that awkward "what are we" talk? If so you have taken part in the uncomfortable but necessary act of Defining the Relationship (DTR.) DTR is something many of us dread as it is either the beginning or the end of a potential long-term relationship.

DTRs can be scary. Done too soon (before a relationship has had some time to develop naturally) they can convey desperation and push the other person away. But they can also be done too late. People who don't want to mess up the delicate dance of a relationship may put off a DTR as long as possible. They might prefer to just enjoy their connection and hope for the best from each other rather than going through the awkward process of asking what their connection means in terms of exclusivity and the future.

Done right, however, a DTR can save couples months (even years) of heartache. As tempting as it can be to simply enjoy having someone to hang out with, to be a listening ear or to share affection, it's important for your heart, your future and even your spiritual health to clarify what you have and where it's going. Sometimes the best thing that can happen as a result of a DTR is that a couple will realize they don't have a future together and can go their separate ways before getting more entangled.

What She Really Means When She Says...

As men, we often are confused by the comments that come out of a woman's mouth. And for good reason!!! Women rarely say what they mean, but almost always mean what they say. The key is to pay attention and if confused, ask a female friend what she means when she makes certain comments. Sure, she might side step the question, but its probably because she expects you to figure it out. So here are a few examples to get the ball rolling.

What She Says: I like you, but I don't want to ruin our friendship.
What She Means: I have zero interest in dating you. Not now, not ever, so don't even bother asking again.

What She Says: Do we really have to go to that party tonight?
What She Means: I'd rather chew on nails than make conversation with your loser friends.


What She Says: Does my butt look big in this?
What She Means: Please tell me you find my ass delicious and can't keep your eyes or hands off it.


What She Says: Do you think she's pretty?
What She Means: Do you think she's prettier than I am? And even if you do, don't you dare say yes.


What She Says: Are you seeing anyone right now?
What She Means: How fast can you break up with your current girlfriend?


What She Says: Where do you see this going?
What She Means: Am I just a booty call or wife material?


What She Says: Are you wearing that?
What She Means: Please change immediately before someone sees you and I die of embarrassment.


What She Says: Where have you been?
What She Means: You're really late and you better do some groveling. Now!


What She Says: Are you telling the truth?
What She Means: You're lying, I know it, and I'm testing you.

What She Says: Oh, how do you know her?
What She Means: Did you sleep with that slut?