Calling in the Reserves

I remember when I was younger and my relatives always asked me what I wanted to do. I always used to say a writer or a lawyer. To my disappointment, they would always tell me how hard it was to make it in those fields and to have a back-up plan just in case that didn't work out. I think at some point all of us have had a conversation similar to that in our lives when discussing where we wanted to go with our lives. So, I guess I, along with countless others, have also injected that principle into our love lives as well. I mean, why not have a back-up plan when it comes to the heart as well right?.....Right?.....(crickets)



Trust me when I say that I don't really believe this is the correct way to approach relationship, but have been guilty of applying said principle to my own love life. The sad thing is, that most people have their "back-up" girl or guy for the sole purpose of providing a confidence boost when the relationships they really want to work fall through. So perhaps a better word would be "consolation prize" rather than "back-up" plan. Our natural fear of being alone is most certainly the cause of such a lifestyle, but we are the ones who make the decision to be that way.



So, how do I tell if I'm the "consolation prize" or the "back-up" plan? Well, if you don't know how to see those signs, chances are you already are. There are tell-tale signs of being thought of as someones back up plan. The warning signs are very similar to that of being a victim of the "texter" or in the friend zone, but have a few differences.

5 Warning Signs of Being Second String:

1). Receiving a Weekend Night Text or Call to Hang Out

2). Being Referred to as a Friend In Public

3). Hang Outs are always at His/Her Place

4). Real Convo's Are Few and Far Between

5). Being labeled as "One of the Guys," "Sweet" or "Nice"