Go out to a bar, club or even within your social circle and observe the way men approach women. I think you'll find that most men, not all, but most are unsure of how to handle the situation. By the situation I mean both the initial greeting and follow-up conversation. The reality is that in life first impressions are everything, but for Women it's the end all and be all of a potential date. It takes a woman only a few seconds to make countless assumptions about men. Translation: Bring your A-Game or you'll get an, "It was nice to meet you," or "I have a boyfriend." And by now it is my hope that you know that women are always looking for an upgrade. So DON'T dig yourself a hole in the first 60 seconds, because if you do you might as well throw yourself in and allow her to shovel the dirt in on top of you...
The approach men take to dating a women goes beyond the introduction and first date and dwells within our thought process upon seeing/meeting a potential partner. Too often men tend to overcompensate in certain areas due to their insecurities. Here's a news flash fellas, you're not fooling anybody. You may be able to trick a woman into believing you're wealthy, smart or even a former professional athlete, but they can spot confidence within the first 5 minutes of a conversation. So...what if I want to play the "nice guy" card?! Well, women do want a "nice" guy, but their definition is slightly different than ours.
When you think of a nice guy a few things probably come to mind. He is sensitive, attentive, open-minded, sweet, cuddly, dependable....(I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.) What I just described to you is a NICE guy, but overly so. Men have a tendency to overdo things on ocassion, which isn't all bad, but in the world of dating being overly nice transforms you from a man to a puppy. When I hear women describe their definition of a nice guy words such as "responsible," "stable," "confident," "funny," etc. come out of their mouths. Although I'm a firm believer that most women don't know what they want until they see it, I do believe that when referring to the want for a "nice" guy they really mean: "I want a REAL guy."
So what do I mean by a real guy?! Being a real guy means being comfortable in your own skin. A real guy isn't afraid to be himself and is proud of his actual accomplishments. He knows his flaws and isn't embarassed by them. He doesn't need to lie about who he is or what he does. And most importantly he knows what he brings to the table in a relationship and isn't worried about whether or not she'll "like" him. Sure, this "real" guy seems slightly unrealistic, but it's what we should all strive for, not because it's what women want, but it's the state of mind required to be at peace with one's self.
5 Things Not to Do When Meeting a Woman:
1). Poor Eye Contact
2). Stutter or Stammer
3). Brag or Boast
4). Curse or Jest in Poor Taste
5). Call or Text within 24 hours
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